30 Reflecting Questions to Ask Your Child After School

Kids Create the Change questions to ask your child after school for reflection

“How was your day?” 

It’s a simple default question that gets asked over and over again out of habit.  Often the answer is a short or single-word answer, and it doesn’t give insight into what transpired during the day.  Answers like “good” or “fine” require follow-up questions to keep the conversation flowing.  Rather than starting a meaningful conversation, the standard question seems to hinder one from happening much of the time.


Here are 30 conversation-starting questions to help you dig deeper into your child’s day-- while teaching your child to reflect!


1. What is the kindest thing you did for someone today?


2. What is something interesting you learned in school?


3. Was there anything you wish you could have done differently?  What was it and what would you change?


4. What made you feel grateful?


5. How did you help your teacher today?


6. Who was kind to you and how?


7. Who did you sit next to at lunch?


8. What made you feel happy?


9. What made you feel sad?


10. Who made you laugh and how?


11. What do you wish you did more of today?


12. What do you wish you didn’t have to do today?


13. What was the hardest thing you did today?


14. Who gave you a compliment and what did they say?


15. What made you feel proud of yourself?


16. How were you brave today?


17. Who did you play with at recess and what did you play?


18. How did your teacher make learning fun today?


19. Was anyone unkind to you today?  How did you respond?


20. What questions did you ask in class today?


21. What are you looking forward to tomorrow?


22. What was the hardest rule to follow today and why?


23. Did you learn any new words today?


24. What is the most creative thing you did?


25. Who inspired you today?


26. Did anything make you feel unsafe today?


27. What is one thing you know today that you didn’t know yesterday?


28. Did you like your lunch today?


29. What did you read about in class?


30. On a scale of 1-10, how was your day?

What are your favorite questions to ask after school?


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